Nobody is same. Therefore, the difference in attitude, mindset, and thinking often lead to arguments which may cause irritation, emotional exertion, anxiety, and discomfort. Now, to every argument, there are two aspects. The professional aspect which is result oriented and the personal aspect which focusses more on resolving the crisis. An argument over how much to invest in a company is more on the professional side whereas, the one over things you said to your spouse has more of the personal aspect to it. To turn the tide in your favor and gain the upper hand in an argument, you should use these hacks:
1. Understand what the argument is about
It always helps to know what is the argument all about. If it is a professional argument, it is more important to reach a result, to arrive at a mutual decision rather than arguing fruitlessly. Staying result oriented can help you avoid distractions and thus, be more relevant. On the other hand, in personal arguments, solving the crisis is more important. This can sometimes mean you have to lose the argument to end it which actually will be a win for you because the aim was the end of the argument.
2. Know what’s right and what’s not
The most important thing about arguing over a case is to know whether it is right or not. In our minds, we always seem to think that we are the smart ones and our opinion is correct. Weighing our idea on practical scales is always beneficial. There is no point arguing over a lost cause as it will only lead to losing.
3. Stay calm
Staying in posture and control can be one of your primary weapons. Nobody likes a frustrated, angry person shouting how their opinion is the right one. You lose the argument when you lose your temper.
4. Avoid being a bigot
Bigotry is the root of most arguments. Be ready to see things from the other person’s perspective. It’ll only help you win the case by helping you realize why they are providing or supporting a particular opinion.
5. Win the opponent
Most arguments end with one person having their way and others still mumbling how their opinion is better. This leads to resentment. To avoid this, win the opponent along with the argument. Respect them, empathize with them and help them see how your point is better than theirs.
6. Use facts and logic
It’s hard to argue with solid facts and logical reasoning. Back up your opinion with facts and pertinent data. This will lead to the establishment of your point over that of the others.
7. Listen to them and then raise your question/point
Pay attention to your opponents and listen to their case. Find chinks in their armor- weakness and flaws in their position. Then put up questions they find hard to answer.
8. Accept when you are wrong
One cannot be right all the time. Accepting your mistakes only signifies your humility and how you are open to ideas from everyone.
9. Open your mind
One should realize there is always room for improvement. Thus, accepting these improvements, no matter if they come from your opponent can help you get to a win-win situation.
If you know you are right; it should reflect in your speech. Lack of confidence is the reason why a lot of brighter ideas remain unconveyed.