March 29, 2017 in Careers
One of the main things in life, whether it’s personal or professional, is to make a positive impact on others. As we all are social animals, there’s a natural tendency in every one of us which is to gain an acceptance and get acknowledged by the other members of our society. Living in community has been a natural evolutionary process for humans, which is why we still crave for others’ support and acceptance by pleasing them. However, this could turn disastrous as pleasing everyone is definitely not possible and is a sure shot recipe for disaster. Let’s take a look at some of the reasons as to why trying to please everyone is detrimental to your success.
It can’t be done
This is the first and the most important factor. You just cannot please everyone. People will always find reasons and ways to oppose you or to put you down. What’s normal for one person could even be a taboo for another. Their opinions or beliefs are opposites. So, how can you please both of them? It’s just not possible. Even if you attempt to, you’ll be stuck between contrarian positions, which will severely harm your prospects of success and leads you to failure.
It impacts your focus
Whether you’re working on a project or pursuing a life goal, focusing on matters, the most are essential. Focusing means you keep all distractions at bay. A desire to please everyone is arguably the biggest distraction you’d face. This tendency will make you explain what you’re doing to almost everyone who’d cast doubt on your work. Ultimately, instead of channelizing your energy in the right direction, you’ll waste it in justifying your work to everyone.
It increases self-doubt
No one is spared from criticism. People will always find a way to criticize you for what you are or what you are doing. When you stop and listen to them, not only it impedes your work but also creates self-doubts in your mind. The very fact that you’re trying to please everyone proves you’re listening to all of them rather than the select few. This makes you vulnerable and also impacts the way you think, leading to an ever increasing self-doubt.
Don’t waste your time pleasing everyone. It’s the worst thing you can do to hurt your chances of success. Instead, believe in yourself and do what you feel right. That’s the only way to answer your critics.