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What should you do if you love your parents but hate their career advice?

April 10, 2017 in Careers

Mother with Teenage Daughter

You need to choose your career wisely. It’s one decision that will affect you for the rest of your life. One of the biggest sources of confusion when deciding on a career path is whether to select what you like or go for the advice of your parents.

Children and parents belong to two different generations, have different perspectives, and different take on life. So, it’s natural that your parents would expect something different from you than what you want from your life. This is where you need to handle the delicate situation with maturity so that you preserve your relationship with your parents while also selecting a career path of your linking.

Let’s take a look at how you can achieve it.

First, convince yourself

To go against your parents’ wishes and to pursue a career of your choice, it’s imperative that you must have an absolute conviction. Check all the details first yourself. Don’t go by what your friends or peers say. Just because everyone wants to be an animator doesn’t mean you too should follow the herd.

Weigh all the pros and cons, and check your own skills and competencies. If all things match up and you’re sure that you’ll be happy and content following the vocation you’ve selected, then you’re good to go and can speak to your parents. Self-conviction is necessary as in its absence, you won’t have to confidence to persuade your parents.

Argue logically

If your parents believe you should follow a different career than what you want, try to convince them by presenting facts and figures. Don’t argue illogically or emotionally as it may lead to a conflict of egos. Instead, explain to them why you want to pursue a particular career and how it’ll help you in your life.

For example, if your parents want you to be a computer programmer and you believe you can become a good commercial artist, tell them there’s not much difference monetarily in both the professions.

The average salary of a computer programmer in the US is $78k and that of a commercial artist is $58k. This might seem a huge difference but the bottom 10% of computer programmers earn $48k while the top commercial artists earn $85k.

Convince your parents that if become a commercial artist, which you’re good at, there’s a very good chance you might earn more than the median pay. Contrarily, if you succumb to the wishes of your parents and become a computer programmer, you might not be good at it and end up in the bottom 10%. This should be more than enough to convince them rationally.

Along with the above tricks, tell your parents to support you so that you can be happy in life. It’s necessary that you tell them that if you follow their wishes and fail, you might end up blaming them for the rest of your life. No parent wants it. They love you more than you love them even if they won’t show it. They have your best interest in their minds. So, a little rationality coupled with a display of love shall be enough to convince them of your career choice.

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